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Friday, September 23, 2005

About that mammo*

Well, various people had suggested it wasn't an experience to be relished, & even the official Reassuring Leaflet told me that most women find it uncomfortable, & some painful. Given that I'm a complete scaredy-cat when it comes to stuff like that (my dentist has to sedate me before he can get anywhere near!) I wasn't looking forward to it one bit. I'd already cancelled a June appointment on the gounds of being "too busy" but really because I needed more time to think. [See below]
Anyway, I'm pleased to report that it was something & nothing. I'd have that done every week without a second thought. The hardest bit was getting back down the steps afterwards! (It was in a mobile unit with very steep rickety metal stairs & an even more rickety handrail, & my knees are dodgy...).
But (& I have to giggle at this) I may get a "technical recall" as I talked at the wrong moment. Oops. Apparently you're not supposed to make nervous small talk while the snaps are bing taken, as it blurs them. Well, I'll keep an eye on the post & my mouth shut next time!

Thinking time needed because... Mum died of breast cancer, in July 2004. But she took a typically brave & unconventional route by rejecting all treatment - kept the knowledge to herself (& Dad) until she unavoidably needed medical help for the pain. She figured that since she was already, as she put it, "crippled & half blind" (from arthritis & glaucoma) there was no point in seeking treatment to prolong her quantity of life at the expense of quality. Instead she & Dad lived as intensely & lovingly as they could for five years, uninterrupted by appointments, hospital visits, chemo, invasive surgery etc. In the final weeks of her life we talked a lot about this decision, & it did affect my own outlook considerably. If it came to it, I would like to show the same sort of dignity, but know that I'm not capable of it - so what would be the point of finding out sooner rather than later that I have a problem too? Hence the difficulty in deciding whether to go for my mammo or not.

But I went. I'm a sucker for official summonses!

Thursday, September 22, 2005

Second time lucky?

Tried to send previous post last night, but blogger was sulking & kept saying things like:

001 java.io.IOException: EOF while reading from control connection


Just re-sent it & discovered it was here after all. Twice. How odd.


Wednesday, September 21, 2005

Turning pale

Well, I have a shiny new computer, with shiny new Windows XP & a shiny new TFT monitor. Everything is so light & bright.... I'm having to re-evaluate all sorts of stuff. Photos are suddenly washed out, my blog colour scheme doesn't have the crisp darkness it was designed with, & it's all rather unsettling!

Actually logged on here to post about mammograms (why, if the process is mammography, isn't the outcome a mammograph?) but got thrown completely off track by the visuals! Maybe another time...

Turning pale

Well, I have a shiny new computer, with shiny new Windows XP & a shiny new TFT monitor. Everything is so light & bright.... I'm having to re-evaluate all sorts of stuff. Photos are suddenly washed out, my blog colour scheme doesn't have the crisp darkness it was designed with, & it's all rather unsettling!

Actually logged on here to post about mammograms (why, if the process is mammography, isn't the outcome a mammograph?) but got thrown completely off track by the visuals! Maybe another time...

Monday, September 12, 2005

I like this!

From http://www.cyborgname.com

Says it all, really :-)

Survived :-)

Not only that, I surprised myself by quite enjoying the day. Less good bits were the torrential rain on the journey to MK & the attack of, erm, nervous bowel syndrome on arrival, but after that, things started to look up! There were some familiar friendly faces there, which helped, & a faintly chaotic 'make it up as you go along' air to the whole proceedings. I can handle that so much better than formality.

Odd thing is, I was reproaching myself for not having a portfolio of gee-whiz powerpoint presentations, but insisting on low-key group activities instead for most of the day - another similar event nearby did take the powerpoint approach & was considered a rather dreary affair.

I still can't quite believe I volunteered (on the day - if it had been promised in advance, I wouldn't even have got the 3 hours sleep I did!) to do some live software demos for a big roomful of - aarrgghh!! - people!!!! Hey ho, maybe I should stop whingeing about my nerves now?

Saturday, September 10, 2005

Being brave again

(I think)
Feeling nervous tonight as I'm off to a briefing meeting in the morning. I quite like briefing meetings, but this time I'm co-presenting it. But hey, 12 months ago I wouldn't even have taken the job! I feel kind of responsible, because five years ago I put forward a suggestion for something, the OU decided to pilot it, & now it has become a reality. So I have to be there, telling people how it can work, right?
Ironic really. I fell in love with online learning because it suited my social phobia, & now I'm briefing new online tutors... face to face. Oh well, nobody ever said the world made sense.

Browser silliness

Had a little panic there, as I logged into my blog on IE & it wasn't there :-(
Well, half the "Books" post was there, but nothing else. Felt strangely bereft, cos I've grown quite attached to this odd little corner of cyberspace. So I'm in Firefox now & wondering what IE will make of this update. Perhaps it doesn't like my template? But it didn't object before - like a faddy child who declares she "hates" whatever was favourite tea the week before!

Monday, September 05, 2005

Books...

Tagged by Kat

1. Number of books I have owned:

Hundreds, I guess. In my uni days I was one of those "good" students who bought (& kept) everything off the set book list, so lots of them are French lit. Then a lifetime's accumulation by an accumulator with an inability to cut loose [see previous post]... Maybe about 8-900, not counting the family collection of children's books upstairs?

2. Last book I bought:

Flora I Farver (Danish wildflower book)

3. Last book I completed:

Hans Christian Andersen's unofficial autobiography, Erindringer (on holiday).

4. Five books that mean a lot to me:

Secret Garden (Frances Hodgson Burnett) – from childhood days: lonely misunderstood girl finds solace in “ a little bit of earth” & saves her hypochondriac cousin from himself (OK, so I didn’t know then that it was a sentimental Victorian “improving tale”) Online here

Thérèse Desqueyroux (François Mauriac) – from sixth form days: lonely misunderstood girl makes doomed attempt to rebel against her oppressive provincial background.

Pensées (Blaise Pascal) – from uni days: you don’t have to agree with his conclusions to admire this as the most trenchant analysis ever of the human condition.

Wide Sargasso Sea (Jean Rhys) - from OU days: powerful, subversive 60s ‘prequel’ to Jane Eyre; lonely misunderstood girl goes mad.

Multi-way tie for the 5th nomination, so I’m not even going to try.

5. Which five bloggers are you gonna tag?

I’m not, sorry, cos all the bloggers I know have already been tagged by Kat or by GW.

Maybe Pyk?

Sunday, September 04, 2005

Locked in?

OK, this is going to be a personal one....

Conservatism is a killer - I'm not talking politics here, but the inability to throw off the dead weight of the past, to shed junk, to break out of habits, get out of ruts, escape from self-created traps... The traps are padded & comfortable, you see? Change takes you into the unknown, & fear of the unknown is a powerful brake.

My immediate environment. None of it is mine. None of the people whose it is, have the time or the will to do anything about it. But it's symptomatic of how I live. There is hardly room for me in this house - physically, but some days it feels emotionally as well. Conservatism keeps me here: it's my home & my family & my life, so it's me & you don't throw yourself away, do you?

It's much more than the untidy mess, of course. Spent part of tonight trawling through year-old emails, simply because I can't let them go. There was one batch of mail printouts I burned, in an attempt to heal hurts, only to be told it was too little too late. Tonight's are unrelated, but it's still the same old circles I'm going round in.

I'm stuck in the music too, listening to what I can connect with good times gone by. Tonight it's Oasis. In the 90s I woke up again to music, but now I'm hanging on to what worked then. Their latest single's lyric "I can't get a life, if my heart's not in it" seems particularly appropriate.

Oh, here's another quote:
"Nous ne sommes pas libres, nous sommes attachés au passé. Nous écoutons ce qui a été fait toujours, nous le refaisons et c'est la guerre et l'injustice" (Henri BARBUSSE) [We are not free, we're attached to the past. We listen to what has always been done, & do it again, & it's war & injustice] Works at the level of a single life as well as a nation!

But even this is a QED, because the quote wasn't randomly discovered. It's the title of an essay I wrote on my degree course. In 1972. It encapsulates a kind of fatalism that struck a chord then, & continues to resonate. I'd tried several times to find the quote again, & felt a strange elation when I finally hit on the right permutation of words to feed into Google. Got a bit of my past back!

Yeah, I'm p*ssed. Wouldn't you be?